One very useful lesson I have learnt, and I take it very seriously, is that you cannot, no matter how much you try or how good you are, please everyone. There will always be some who, for no apparent reason and for no fault of yours whatsoever, will dislike you, or even hate you, actively and relentlessly.
Nothing you say or do, therefore, no matter how valid and useful, makes sense or has value to them, because they have made up their minds, for reasons best known to them, to dislike or hate you. All they want, and work for, is to see your downfall. Nothing less than that will satisfy them or assuage their active dislike and hatred.
They will swear that white is black as long as the white comes from you! It is not that they do not know the truth. No. They know the truth. They are just blinded and misguided by their hatred and prejudice, and so will always oppose you and work against you. Acting unreasonably and misguidedly, they constitute themselves into an opposition against you and everything you stand for.
Sometimes you are tempted to try to win such fellows over, but is is all wasted time and wasted effort. They usually are irrevocably committed to disliking and hating you. Therefore, do not waste your time and energy on such people. Do not try to defend yourself or work to win them over. It is not going to work. They will only take your goodwill and throw it back at you with negative energy and spiteful enthusiasm.
They assume that if they work to belittle you and your contributions, they will gain an upper hand over you and, thus, promote their brand above yours. It is always a nonstarter with lots of negative repercussions for those who engage in it. They usually end up regretting their spiteful engagement because it wins them nothing. You go on and succeed in like inspite of their venomous spite.
I encourage you, on your part, to take your gems and precious nuggets and share them with those who believe in you and value you. Invest your time and energy on strengthening and building such persons and relationships as cherish and value you. Band with those who value you. Build positive reinforcements all around you.
Your investments in positive relationships will bear handsome dividends and stand as a positive testimony for you, such that will eventually drown out the negative cloud created around you by the dirty dealings of your detractors. You will overcome every evil plan and evil persons that mobilize and work against you.
Remember: light will always prevail over darkness, no matter how long darkness appears to hold sway. Light, therefore, need not to be afraid of darkness. All that light needs to be or do is to be light and continue to shine. Continue to shine in good works, no matter the negative counter pull. You are stronger than all the negative forces arrayed against you.
Your value in life is in the positive impact you make on others. Focus on that. Regale in that. Relish that. Specialize on that. Dwell on that. Enjoy doing good. Grow a glorious garden of beautiful works fed with positive energy and the light of enlightened understanding. Rise above dislike and hatred and be a source of positive energy and love engagements.
Cut out the haters and detractors. Do not dignify their negativism with attention and response. Starve them of the flawed victory and demented satisfaction they crave. Shut them up with superior works and positive energy. Rise above their trap and live freely in the light of love and understanding.
You can do it.
It is all within you.
Selah and Shalom!
It is Agoso Bamaiyi, your friend for a greater Nigeria and the best things of life.
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