Bounce Back, Bigger and Better!

Bounce Back, Bigger and Better!

When negative or bad things happen to you - such as government or parents failing in their responsibilities, a friend or confidante betraying you, your business partners scheming you out of your investments and dues, your siblings or relations denying you your birthright, your husband or wife despising you or cheating on you, an accident that cripple you, etc. - it can leave you out on a limb or pretty beaten down and devastated. You suddenly find yourself thrown out of your secure zone and left to fight for your sanity, dignity and/or even your dear life.

At such times, the easiest reaction, but by far the less productive one, is to pick offence and start the blame game. But, and I need to emphasize, it is an exercise in futility. Do not waste time seeking excuses or justification or even revenge.

Picking offence and blaming others are very convenient as self-extricating excuses and soothing for your ego, but in reality offer absolutely no traction or momentum for moving forward or making progress or bouncing back, bigger and stronger. They only dig you deeper and deeper into despair and defeat. Listen to these wise words by Nanette Matthews:

"You relinquish your power when you blame others for situations in your life. The blame does not change the situation and only keeps you in a victim mentality. Accept that the situation occurred and find a way to transcend it and you will reclaim your power and become the victor." - Nanette Mathews.

There is ALWAYS the possibility of bouncing back, better and smarter, no matter the extent of the negative event or issue. That is what your mind and subsequent engagements should be focused on. Listen to this advice by British-born American writer, Jacqueline Edgington:

"You can blame your difficulties on your parents, but every time you do, it’s like sitting in mud. Each time you blame, you sink a little further until you get stuck. When you get stuck, you can’t act to make things better. You won’t become anything if you keep blaming. You’ll always be stuck in the mud. But when you stop blaming, then you can act. You can act like people do in fairy tales. You can write your own lines. You can create your own story." - Jacqueline Edgington

Your DESTINY cannot be destroyed by the negative things that happen to you. Therefore, pickup the pieces, stand up in courage and start again. You may have to start in a new direction entirely or in your former pursuit but with new partners or in a new location, or you may have to go it alone. Whatever you decide to do, get up, go out and do it. Go ahead and write your own story.

WHAT YOU MUST NOT DO IS TO STAY ON AND BROOD OVER THE OFFENCE OR ENGAGE IN THE BLAME GAME. Both are totally fruitless and a colossal waste of time and energy. They will take you nowhere except deeper and deeper into problems and compounded complications, resulting in failure in life.

If there ever is anything that can scuttle your DESTINY in life, it is to pick offence and play the blame game or seek to pay back in kind. Doing any of these will weigh you down and blind you to the great possibilities that still lie ahead of you. Your greatest and sweetest revenge and victory is not in painting your offenders black or even succeeding in pulling them down. No. It is in pulling your self up, bouncing back and succeeding in life. Frank Sinatra, American singer, actor, producer and one of the best-selling music artists of all time, agree. He said, and I quote:

"The best revenge is massive success" - Frank Sinatra.

YOU ARE MORE THAN ANY BAD OR NEGATIVE EXPERIENCE, SO DO NOT ALLOW ANY TO KEEP YOU DOWN. ARISE, GO FORWARD AND SUCCEED: BIGGER AND BETTER. 

You are more than a conqueror. Nothing and no one can stop you.

It is Agoso Bamaiyi, your friend for a greater Nigeria and the best things in life.